How to Just Be

November 17, 2022

Struck by the synchronicity: On November 7, 2016, I was sitting in the infusion room getting my first doublet dose of chemo, looking at a 5% chance of surviving five years and feeling scared, overwhelmed, sad, mad and fragile. When I look at the picture of myself and that first infusion, I can’t help but wonder where that woman has gone. She was angry and pissed off that she was being asked to walk this path, and rightly so. I feel so much compassion for what she/I went through on that day. Determined to make the best of a crappy situation, spinning her wheels trying to find someone or something to blame. She/I was afraid of becoming a burden and of not being ready to say goodby.

November 7, 2022, six years to the day later, I was a floor away from that same infusion room preparing for my umpteenth PET/CT, laughing and chatting with familiar faces about Thanksgiving plans. I am having a difficult time putting into words this juxtaposition of events. Am I still that woman in the picture? Six years of cancer treatment has changed me, how could it not? I’m a specialist now when it comes to my own personal disease and there are times when I’m still sad, mad and fragile. My biggest fears remain the same, I am most afraid of becoming a burden and of not being ready or willing when the time comes to say goodby. I have the blisters and calluses of a trekker and the vision of a seeker, walking a road that I wouldn’t wish on anyone. 

In May, when I was in the hospital with a small bowel obstruction, I came the closest to date to facing my deepest fears. There weren’t any good options if the obstruction didn’t resolve on its own and I found myself at the mercy of fate. One of the surgeons bluntly told us that even if the obstruction did resolve I needed to prepare myself for more of the same, be it weeks or if I was lucky, maybe I’d get a few more months. My cancer was once again progressing and the damage was all too clear. 

A lot can happen in six years, a lot can happen in six months. My November 7 scan showed no change from the August scan, “Scan is stable…No growth anywhere!” . There are a couple of lymph nodes we are watching, my tumor markers remain in normal ranges and while I am still dealing with treatment side effects, I am not noticing any cancer symptoms. Mobocertinib has been a miracle drug for me and I cannot thank those responsible for stepping out of the box and prescribing and supplying this drug enough.

Six years since that first chemo infusion and five months into my seventh line of treatment I find the emotional roller coaster exhausting. But I’ll take it.

I’ll take all of it. 

9 thoughts on “How to Just Be

  1. Love you Peggy – You are a positive LIGHT for everyone you touch. Your strength has amazed me from day 1 – your determination is unmatched. I pray for continued stability in your health, the miracle of healing, strength in everything and a loving holiday season for all of you. You are on my mind and in my heart always. xoxoox Susan and Lauren – 21 and loving college life!

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  2. Thank you for sharing this Peggy. Our paths are all different, yet very similar. There is always that uncertainty that we live with daily. Yet, we chose to move on and shed light on a dark subject (LUNG CANCER). Always enjoy your insights to this terrible disease we share.

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  3. All we can ever hope for is to just be. You have mastered that so well and inspire all of us that knows you to live each day the best we know how. A very special and lucky group of women continue to be amazed by your awesomeness and hold you close in our hearts and thoughts every day. Cheers to seeing you soon, maybe with fewer shenanigans (or maybe not!) Love you, my special sister.

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  4. Dear Peggy, Great to see your smiling face again. Sending you love and I hope one day we can meet. You continue to inspire me and I love reading your blog.

    Sending much love Julie Zocchi

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  5. A remarkable story and journey from an unbelievably remarkable you. You are a strong woman and we will always remember the good old days when you and Kaylene were part of our group. Keep up the good fight.

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